That make perfect relationships. I think Sondheim's tongue in cheek assertion is not completely off base. A relationship is based off the little things you put into it together. If a relationship is based off criticism or off singular (as opposed to shared) expectations or assumptions, the relationship will easily fall apart under pressure.
I have been told that the first year of marriage is the most difficult. If this is true, my marriage will be a cakewalk. I have found that working together as one is simple provided both parties are willing to work, communicate, sacrifice, and most importantly appreciate one another. That last part is key if you don't want resentment to creep in.
My husband and I do almost everything together, because we feel it is important to share experiences and grow together. We make compromises for each other and make active effort to understand each other;s likes and dislikes in addition to strengths and weaknesses. We can honestly say we are best friends.
I think relationships are hard work. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying. When you build that hard work and understanding into how your relationship functions, things will be easy. However, if you pretend that hard work is unnecessary, then the reality of a relationship and the effort it takes will be exhausting. This is why people give up on their spouses. Its all about perception.
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